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Comment by DR LOVE on March 2, 2012 at 13:54

well it is possible i m do that as we speak

Comment by Knersus on February 14, 2012 at 23:06

I wont mind a secret admirer, i have had one or two that i never knew about until other people told me so. Its a very nice feeling, even if nothing comes from it, it makes you feel that you matter to at least one person in this world. The problem comes when thatb secret admirer starts stalking you sending you weird and scary stuff. Obsession is dangerous, admiration is cool, but there is a very fine line between the two eg a male colluege of mine had a huge crush on a female colluege at the same place of work, he use to send her flowers and candy etc every yr, she was a lovely lady. Her and i flirted with each other, but we knew it was harmless fun, however this male colluege's admiration for her developed into obsession. She reported him to management for harassment and i warned him he could loose his job. Apparently he would drive to her home and park in her driveway and look through her windows! Now that not being smitten, thats seriously obsession, i would not say that he was dangerous, but it could have turned nasty very quickly, luckily he backed off when she reported him. Guys have to learn the difference between innocent flirting and genuine interest, if a girl smile at them then these guys think its a sign to get it on. I knew she was just flirting with me and on the day i left that job she came to me and told me thankyou for always being a gentleman and not taking her seriously. That made my millenuim..lol

Comment by Mona Lisa on February 14, 2012 at 16:00

Ag it might came after this story.. Secret admirers is romantic, dont you think? I must figure it out, think about this one.. Not really sure, hey? Let me figure it out. Come on, what do you think? Where does the secret admiration fit in?

Comment by Knersus on February 14, 2012 at 15:26

Mona, i know this story as well, but where di the whole secret admirer part come in then when it was actually unmarried couples trying to get hitched in secret? Your gf / bf or fiance is not a secret admirer they are your known admirers..lol

Comment by Mona Lisa on February 14, 2012 at 14:49

The History of St. Valentine's Day: Where did Valentine Come From

 

Saint Valentine of Terni and his disciples. 14th Century France. Richard de Montbaston.

A thorn in the Emperor's side

Popular belief says that around third or fourth century there was a Roman Emperor, Claudius II, who had grown powerful. With his power, his empire had also grown large and feeling the pressure from surrounding enemies, he needed a bigger army to defend his borders.

Knowing that married soldiers would not make good soldiers since they were attached to their wives and families, he knew that younger, unmarried men were ideal to defend his empire. So, the emperor passed a law banning marriage for young men.

Upon hearing this new law, a priest named Valentine decided to meet with young couples at a secret location join them in matrimony. Although, this would be short-lived when he was discovered by Claudius II and sent to jail.

Some sources say that Valentine had a chance to redeem himself when the emperor tried to convert him to Roman Gods and, after refusing such an offer, Valentine tried to convert the emperor.

It is also believed that while Valentine was in jail he fell in love with his jailer's daughter who was believed to have been blind and healed by Valentine. And on the day of his execution he wrote a letter to his beloved and signed it "From Your Valentine." This phrase is still in use today.

Valentine became martyred because he did not renounce his religion. However, the Catholic church removed his name, along with many others, in 1969 when they revised their liturgical calendar.

Comment by Cardinal on January 20, 2012 at 13:47

could not agree more. By trying to hoodwink, because that is all it is, somebody is tantamount of lying to that or even those people. Be honest with yourself and with then the people can make up there own minds as to who or what you really are. By lying to somebody can only lead to bad blood between these people and yourself. If you are so unsure of yourself then come straight out and admit as to who you really are, most people will accept you

Comment by Fluffy on January 18, 2012 at 17:18

That little devil called lust may have spoken here ??

I am certain you love your wife Cardinal. I agree with Mona, talk to her, forgive and move on. These things happen sometimes

Comment by Mona Lisa on January 18, 2012 at 15:57

Discuss it with your wife. If you love her, its worth fighting for. Forgive and go on. We are all human after all.

Comment by Cardinal on January 18, 2012 at 14:17

Cheating, or can I sat extra marital fling, has happened, not because of falling out of love but because of circumstances way beyond my control which unfortunately I cannot disclose here.

Comment by Mona Lisa on January 18, 2012 at 11:52

Yes, it is possible.. Anything these days is possible. Sad but it can happen. Cheating isnt just something that happens to unhappy married people. It can happens for many reasons. a Relationship is like a piece of furniture. In the beginning its new, good, and wanted. But as time goes on, that piece of furniture gets old and unnoticeable. Same with a relationship. Relationships is lots of hard work and communication. It will have its up and downs. if someone loves another he or she will not cheat. That is what we all want to hear or believe. But it isnt allways the case. Relationships is difficult and everyone unique. The good with the bad. Its how we handle that.