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Permalink Reply by Wizpur on February 28, 2010 at 10:57

Yes Mr. Coolly it does exist.People get involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. You should start out by getting to kno the person, not their bank balance or car that they drive.How many people hav friends that they knew since primary school? It's the same with a relationship, you should have a friend in the person u with.Otherwise what's it all about?A few months down the line u will hav nothing in common with one another.I love my husband 4 who he is, I fell inlove with the person not with wot comes with it.I can truelly say I love him unconditionally.

TREVOR said:

Love is not a feeling its an act of your will. You love that person no matter what.Your marriage vows"for better for worse,richer or poorer,through sickness and in health,until death do us part". True when you say you saw something in them that was beautiful.You saw the uniqueness of that person and thats what you fell in love with.Hell,the first time you met them ,did you want to meet them because they had money or whatever?I doubt it so to say you fell in love with that person because of their money or whatever ,is a lie.Love starts off as a feeling,its an emotion. 6 months or a year later that feeling starts to subside then you start to notice little things that you didnt notice before because you were so in love,or as we say blinded by it.That is when a lot of people break up.Others carry on loving because of the "gem" they found.That is when love becomes an act of your will.That is when you can stand before that person and say"I am going to love you no matter what".
No relationshipmarriage is perfect.You have ups-and-downs.Its how you deal with those downs that determines how many ups you will have.The sooner you deal with the downs,the sooner you can carry on enjoying the ups.Love/marriage/relationship is something you have to constantly work on.Sometimes its not easy but when the two of you work on it together,the rewards are limitless!!! I cannot recall when last my wife and I had a disagreement.We do things together,discuss things openly without arguing.....to be honest...WE LOVE EACH OTHER UNCONDITIONALLY.

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Permalink Reply by Mr Coolly on February 28, 2010 at 20:28

In conclusion

guys I have heard your opinions I appreciate being discussed this with u. but as far as I concerned u fell
in relationship with someone because there is something he/she has in common it can be either beautiful, caring, smarts or whatever one can mansion is where the condition begins. I mean guys u fell
in those relationships because there was something attracted u to go for your lover I don't care what is it
and when the time goes on you realized that this was a right person to meat and it is where an UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE begins.

It where you can start believing in your lover beside being fit, having money, being disabled, or
whatever situation he/she can find him/herself at but you must remember what made you in the beginning to go for that person??? because there must be a something.

Guys I have learned something from you hope you as well have fun.

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